blessings

Blessings come in many forms. Most missed because they are not what we longed for. Nevertheless, they are blessings. Lets be aware of them eg health, family, friends, clients, employers, communities or nations.

protect and defend

As leaders, we must protect and defend the integrity of our colleagues. Especially when they are being accused for actions without hard evidences and witnesses.

Having faith and belief in them must be projected via our words, tonality and body language when we respond to questions thrown by internal or external parties.

How would we feel when we are being accused in our absence, without opportunities to explain the real situations?

Let us be reminded of this fundamental leadership-management behavior and role.

Let us not slack and buck up.

Let us uphold the respect and role vested in us and do the right thing in the right way!

in moments of uncertainty…

…only telling the truth about what we know and when we know it in the most timely manner would be enough to provide comfort or the focus to carry on. Never ‘wing it’ or bluff our ways through the situation we are facing especially when other concerned parties are involved.

In uncertain situations, people need solid and factual reasons to remain objective to face realities. People can accept realities only when they know that there are nothing being hidden or kept in secret.

During moments of crises, the only and kindest thing we can do is to share information truthfully and timely.

be accountable & take full responsibility…

…over our own decisions in our personal and professional life.

When we meet difficult situations, do not deny them. Recognize and acknowledge these situations. Analyze how we landed ourselves into them and immediately create ways (solutions) to get out of them.

These steps may help:

1. Recognize the current situation (state) that we are in;

2. Identify the root cause of it;

3. Create the desired outcome (state) that we want;

4. Write down the effects (benefits) of achieving such an outcome; and

5. Create various options (resources or action plans) to change the situation.

Be proactive. Take responsibility. Be accountable to ourselves. Never blame and overcome. May we then find true freedom.

lead self to lead people

We are all leaders because we lead one of the most, if not the most, difficult person in the face of this planet, ourselves! Every human behavior is a reflection of our own. Behaviors we observe in our followers, we may still have them as well. In NLP terms, our projections are people perceptions. How we behave will birth in others (our observers)  their respective perceptions on us…for better or for worse!

Lead our ‘selves’ by:

Be Aware of our thinking which ultimately translates into our behaviors. Constantly ask for others’ feedback on our ideas, our language and behaviors; and improve from that.

Be Willing to Accept and Change when feedback is justified especially from people we trust. It shortens our learning curve and we improve faster.

Be Open to the idea that we are all work in progress. A journey that takes time and with lots of fumbles and mistakes. Never repeat the same mistakes twice.

Apply these ideas and make them stick. These will change the ways we think, feel and behave. These will change our leadership styles. Our followers will be the first to see the difference in us as leaders. Make it worth and make it work!

tell your story

Tell your story. People are moved by stories. We grow up listening to stories and as adults, we still are touched by them. They are easy to understand. They touch our emotional and logical faculties. People like to listen to our real life stories. It give them a high sense of authenticity.

cherish friendships

Cherish friendships. Close friends are few and cherish them, we should. They are quality relationships that are meaningful and nourishing; correcting and encouraging us; being with us in times of need; and making our lives more fulfilling as we share with them. So, lets us cherish each one of our close friends. Call them or tell them that we are glad they are our friends…would you?