learn & apply continuously

Everyday I learn something new. Not because I am cleverer or smarter or special. Its because I am “hungry”. Hungry to know how to become a better person by learning and applying values for life and principles for living!

I am experiencing inner-fulfillment and joy whenever I grow from the inside out…I get excited and can’t wait to apply my learnings.

I experiment with my new learnings as often as I could in as many chances I have; eg after I learnt the impact of voice tonality during communication, I used two different tonalities when I ordered at McDs and got different responses from the same server. I appreciate him for being patient with me (and he might be thinking I may be having a personality disorder!). And I learnt a lot from this scenario.

The point is be eager to learn and be even more eager to practice what we learnt. A whole new world may open for us! Try it!!!

sincerity

I observed lately and specifically in my area of work and family, we lack sincerity in our day to day interactions with each other. From an Asian cultural perspective, we may say that it is not polite, not nice or just pure rude to be open, direct or sincere with someone especially when we talk about issues or problems about that someone. Is it? Or is it due to our lack of knowledge and know-how?

I know, and proved that we can still be sincere, open and direct provided we put ourselves in the right state of mind and emotions complemented with the right body postures. The thing is we need to be courageous and tell it as it is objectively with the right body language, tonality of voice and the excellent choices of words.

The right state of mind is not to prejudge him (her), be curious to find out the truth, maintain neutrality, maintain rapport (trust) and be honest to address his(her) behavior(s); not the person. And this point is extremely important!!!

Hopefully, with more sincerity, we connect more rather than just communicate! Try it and see the magic of connection unveils…

 

mind our words

Words have profound impact on our day to day living. It sets our state of being (emotions), plant ideas in our minds (thoughts) and governs our behaviors. How can this be? Well, words act as triggers or anchors as we term it in the field of neuro-linguistic programming (nlp). A specific word may trigger a specific thought or memory; that recalls an emotion which in turn results in a particular behavior. Such memories are mostly stored in our unconscious mind (subconscious mind). Yes, kept in specific areas within our maze of neurons connections or quite currently called our “connectome” according to neuro-scientist, Dr Sebastian Seung of MIT.

And that’s the reason why we must be on our guard when we talk to ourselves in terms of what words we used. Our self-talk can be very constructive, encouraging, loving, kind, gentle, self-controlled, joyous, hopeful, good and peaceful. Such words will set us in very positive state of being which helps us live effectively or deal effectively with our challenges in life.

So, be aware of our words and guard our unconscious mind well!